For matriarchs who are ready to see just how good love can get.

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Have you ever felt like…
The love you want just doesn’t exist?

You were taught to be an agreeable, accommodating Good Girl — to put your needs second, to over-function in relationships, and to believe that wanting more meant asking for too much.

This kind of conditioning is never going to get you the love you want because you’re not here to survive relationships or earn safety through self-sacrifice.

You’re here to build real security — emotional, financial, and relational. You’re here to break old patterns and set a new standard. One where your boundaries are clear, your intuition is trusted, and love feels steady, reciprocal, and expansive — not draining.

You don’t have to choose between softness and strength.
You get to have both.

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Hey, love! I’m Elle —

A certified dating and relationship coach, feminine energy expert, and single mom entrepreneur who’s been there.

I know what it feels like to over-function, to settle for “good enough,” to hustle for scraps of love while secretly wondering if the real thing will ever come.

I also know what it takes to break that cycle — to stop playing small, trust yourself again, and finally call in the secure, nourishing love that we all deserve.

Whether you’re dating, divorced, or simply determined to never settle again — this is where you’ll find the skills, coaching, and guidance to have the (love) life you desire.

✨ Ready? Of course you are.

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ASK ELLE

ASK ELLE is where you get the unfiltered answers no one else is saying out loud with expert guidance, zero shame, and big-sister energy that refuses to play nice with patriarchy.

This is for women and moms who are done with the status quo and ready for raw truth on topics like dating after divorce, what “provider” men actually means, whether coffee dates are in or not, how to lead with detachment — and everything in between.

Send me your questions and I’ll give you answers that help you center your dreams, walk away faster, trust your intuition, and rise fully into your feminine power.

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  • "Elle Darcy is a revelation."

    In an industry of cookie cutter coaches, promising "multi six figures, boss babe," and a one size fits all approach to success; Elle Darcy is a revelation. Her approach to deep inner work is unparalleled: instead of asking us to look outside for numbers, symbols, or indicators of success; she asks us to look in. What does success feel like? How are we most fulfilled? What do we want? I have worked with Elle on reclaiming power and worthiness and moving past limiting beliefs.

    Every time we speak, it is transformative. She has a unique way of making you feel you're simultaneously talking to your best friend and a wise ancestor- she is irreverent, hilarious, and deeply knowledgeable in a variety of modalities.Nourishing yet firm, supportive yet probing; Elle helps women move past the inner blocks that are our most insidious enemies to emerge brighter, bolder, and more beautiful. Elle loves women- she sees their brilliance, and helps them to uncover it. Working with her will change your life–I promise.

    K.N.

  • "I will forever be grateful."

    Elle—you changed my heart, which changed my life. When I started seeing Elle I was feeling lost. I wish I had hired her from day one. Elle helped me in ways I didn't expect. She was able to help me tackle some fears around being seen that I didn't know I still had. Our blocks aren't often what we think they are and Elle has a gift for asking the right questions to get you to your answers. Plus, she got me clear on my vision, goals, and next steps. Turns out, I was ready to start fresh following my heart and passion.

    S.P.

  • "Literally Life-Changing"

    The coaching session we did together was LITERALLY LIFE-CHANGING for me–I felt like you absorbed everything I said, turned it into fucking gold, and gave it back to me as a solution instead of a problem. You are so insanely talented- coaching women is truly your calling.

    H.R.

  • "I think of Elle as a therapist."

    She helped me identify my strengths, define my voice and vision, and take the leap to fully immerse myself in love. More specifically, she showed me the importance of approaching showing up with more intention and less fear. I continue to have Elle’s voice in my head and am grateful. Elle was wonderful to work with and is a great champion of women and their success.

    S.I.

  • "My favorite teacher."

    I had a human design coaching with Elle after spending a year studying the basics with other experts. I was utterly stunned to discover - with her guidance - exactly what my design meant for me, my business, my money, and my impact. It was no longer about rules and boxes but expansion and understanding.

    M.W.